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‘Luck is believing you’re lucky’ – Tennessee Williams
This is the quote that sums up this post about how to be lucky.
Luck. The dictionary says it’s “something that makes events unpredictable and inescapable” (from latin fors fortis “fate, chance”). Basically, favorable destiny.
Have you ever stopped thinking if you’re a lucky person or not? I mean, in general. Have you ever thought about it? Stopping is so useful, we need that. Taking five minutes every day to think how’s it going. Are you facing life in the right way? Are you shallow? Optimistic? Pessimistic?
HOW TO BE LUCKY IN LIFE | LUCK FACTOR
A few months ago, I think in July, I borrowed a book at my local library. When I walked by the shelf, I was attracted by its bright green color and the subheading. The book was ‘Luck Factor’ by Richard Wiseman and the subheading was ‘How to increase luck in your life, the four principles’. Also, his surname was pretty promising. What I loved most about ‘Luck Factor’ was the method that the author uses in all his books: Wiseman always base his works on years of researches, experiments and interviews. This is also the method I believe in, in my daily life.
LUCK IN REAL LIFE
When I started reading it, at every page, I made a consideration. In my head, I thought about the ones I know in real life that believe they are lucky or unlucky. And at every page I thought ‘Damn, this is real!’
So, what’s luck in real life? I understood luck is all about attitude, predisposition, inclination (they are synonyms).
There was one example that I loved most:
“Martin stopped by the coffee shop, one morning, before his meeting. On his way in, he noticed a five-pound sterling note by the door and he picked it up. He greeted the barista, ordered his coffee, then scanned the shop before choosing to sit down next to a well-dressed man at the counter. He engaged him in conversation and before he left, they exchanged business cards. Brenda visited the same shop, but things turned out very differently. She walked right past the five-pound sterling note at the door. Inside, she ordered her drink and sat at the counter next to a business man, but she did so quietly, not saying a word to anyone.”
So what’s the moral? Same opportunities, different attitude.
This example made me think A LOT. In the past years (a lot ago) I thought many times that the others were way luckier than me. But recently I understood that if I want something, I have to go and get it. Destiny? Yes, it exists, but WE create it.
HOW TO BE LUCKIER | FOUR PRINCIPLES
I’ll try to sum them up briefly, but I invite you to read the book, you’ll understand many more things.
- JUMP AT THE CHANCE
« Dum loquimur fugerit invida aetas: carpe diem, quam minimum credula postero.» – Oratio
“In the moment of our talking, envious time has ebbed away. Seize the present; trust tomorrow e’en as little as you may.”. The most powerful quote of all times.
Lucky people are those that seize the moment, they create opportunities and/or know when to take advantage of them. Kissed by the fortune usually have a relaxed and positive attitude, they love new experiences. Talking to a stranger, talking that comes from nothing, seems stupid right? Think about how many chances it could give you. Probabilities will increase exponentially.
Oh and don’t forget to smile.
Create, notice and grasp.
- FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION
Sharpen your sixth sense. We already mentioned before that lucky people jump at the chance and they know when it’s the right moment.
This is not empty talk,, we’re talking about subconscious. Subconscious, whether you like it or not, guides us in every daily choice. To benefit from it, you have to work it out. How? Clearing your mind by meditating, for example.
Wiseman suggests to sit comfortably on a couch, close the eyes, breathe and repeat a word/sentence. By doing it, you will just concentrate on that term and you’ll eliminate other worries.
- BE OPTIMISTIC
I want a spend some words on this point. Nowadays we are constantly on social media: either for work or to relax. We’re used to share our happy moments with hundreds of people. It’s kinda normal. After all, when we print pictures to make a photo album we don’t print the sad moments right?
Pity that we usually are not aware of what our happiness does to others.
Joy could rouse someone to be discouraged and pessimistic, and think that everyone has the perfect life except them. No one has the perfect life, believe me.
Being pessimistic is TOTALLY UNUSEFUL. Are there any reason to not being optimistic? No. Do you have any reason to discourage? No. Something went wrong? Then gather, learn and go on.
‘Luck is believing you’re lucky’ remember?
- CONVERT MISFORTUNE IN GOOD FORTUNE
Then gather, learn and go on. I swear I did not do that on purpose, I involuntarily summed up this principle with that sentence.
The ones kissed by the fortune are usually able to LEARN from the bad experiences. It’s impossible to be ALWAYS lucky, but that lucky ones stand out because they see the positive side of the misfortune.
Sometimes, you can’t avoid situation. Four years ago, for example, I’ve been robbed. I remembered what I thought that time, once I metabolized: “Wow, I could have been way unluckier”. I was distracted so I did not resist and I let my bag go (yeah, with the robbers).
If you think that everything above means nothing, maybe you really need to read this book.
You may be very interested in these four principles to enter your life.
Learn how to be lucky now.